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March 12

Better city & life

There is no doubt that we prefer to live in the city. The reason is that we enjoy our life to the fullest. What kind of city life do we need?

The better city life means living in the harmonious society with congenial atmosphere and unique cultural flavors; the better city life means sitting in a bar listening to the beautiful music and communicating with family members and friends over a cup of gourmet coffee giving out a fascinating and pleasing fragrance after a day of hard work. It can also be walking in a quiet park, or appreciating a fantastic view with neon lights lighting up the night of the city.

How shall we savor the better city life?

We need to slow down the pace of life.

It is true that we often forget our true selves in the busy pursuit of living; it is a pity that we do not know who we are anymore. We are just like a bird which forgets its own danger of being a prey of another in pursuit of a mantis. We just lose ourselves. There are some people who we think are happy, who appear to be themselves, but they are actually not the way it seems. There are some people who we think are miserable, and it seems to us that they are not themselves, in fact, they are.

A true self can not be seen by others, a true self lies in his mind. A person, who has his confidence, who has an earned pride and a genuine esteem, will be happy, and will be himself. Only when he is happy, can he do his best to achieve his values, to achieve his true self, and at last can he be a successful man. To live a simple life filled with confidence is the secret to be one true self.

The better city life belongs to a person who has a true self; the better city life belongs to a rational man, the man who desires nothing but rational goals, seeks nothing but rational values, and finds his joy in nothing but in his rational actions. What I care about is how to find a true self, how to make this true self better, and how to finally mold it perfect. What I care about is how this true self lives the better city life.

This is our goal, our direction, our mission: better city, better life, for a better self!

March 10

女孩 男孩

“干得好不如嫁得好”、“男孩要穷养,女孩要富养”。

  这二句话有什么错么?作为女人,你别说,我对这二句话是很崇拜的!从小就耳濡目染着这样的教育。至今也没有觉得不好。
  作为女性,我一直的不很赞同“男女都一样”的说法。这句话根本不是解放妇女,而是扭曲女性本质的枷锁。
  身为女人,肩负着的主要任务(重任)是持家、相夫、教子等等,而不应该是养家糊口。这就需要男女有别。也必须男女有别。因为女人生来再就肩负着一个男人不能够胜任的功能和角色,那就是怀孕育人。既然女人具有这样天生的(上帝赋予的)“伟大”的不同于男人的生理构造,那么女人就应该享受起码的合情合理的“待遇”,有别于男人。

  如有人问“中国5000年的悠久古老的文化,什么最为引以你自豪(关注?)?”
  那么我会回答“干得好不如嫁得好”以及“男孩要穷养,女孩要富养”。因为这样的思想,这样的教育,最具人性、人文、最最合符尊重人类自然规律。这样的文化才经得起“悠久古老的”等赞美之词的颂扬。
  我从来都认为,一切合符自然规律,才是好的。一切尊重自然规律的人,才是好人。

  “女孩子富养”说的是一个爱护以及尊重(敬重。。。性别的意思~);而“男孩穷养”,则是培养和灌输一种养家户口的责任感。。。。是任何时候都应该提倡和发扬光大的。

  而“干得好不如嫁得好”,更是没有遭批判的理由。这跟“男人就想娶个好老婆”有什么区别?有什么错?

  骨子里,有几个男人正真的希望自己的老婆跟他比翼双飞的?又有几个女人正真的不图好安逸的居家生活的?那些体现自身价值自尊自爱,只是用拥有一份有薪水的工作去证明(验证?)?
  我不认为。
  正真的解放妇女,是尊重妇女(本质)。。。而不是尊重她的那份有薪水的工作(形式)。
  逮着机会,啰嗦一把自己的俗念。持不同观点的朋友们见谅。要加注的是,我这些个“见识”跟走出家门与男人作战在同一战壕不矛盾的。我强调的只是思想而不是形式。

February 20

what makes a father?

God took the strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature,
The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages,
The power of the eagle's flight,
The joy of a morning in spring,
The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity,
The depth of a family need,
Then God combined these qualities,
When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,
And so,

He called it ... Dad

A Father means so many things...
A understanding heart,
A source of strength and of support
Right from the very start.
A constant readiness to help
In a kind and thoughtful way.
With encouragement and forgiveness
No matter what comes your way.
A special generosity and always affection, too
A Father means so many things
When he's a man like you...
January 07

Leon

“这是关于两个小孩的故事,一个女孩和一个男孩,在他们心里,他们都是12岁,他们都感到失落而他们深爱彼此。”
                                                                                                                ——吕克·贝松”
很难想象,沉寂多日的日志,居然会在2009年第一个月里,为一位杀手再次开启!他的名字叫Leon! 一个在女孩眼中非常cute 的名字...
 
不记得已经多久了,许多人向我推荐过这部影片,但是for some reason unknown, 我一直没有关注过它,直到几天前...
 
这是一个普通的不能再普通的男人:他永远只喝一个牌子牛奶, 穿着长长的黑色大衣和永远露出脚脖子的长裤,就像是马戏团的演员。走到哪都戴着墨镜, 似乎黑色是他生活的主色调.他用墨镜遮住木讷的表情,笨拙的步伐衬托出寂寞的背影,让他总是能轻易地被淹没在街头喧嚣的人群中.他每天在同样的时间醒来,精心照料他最好的朋友——一盆不知名的绿色植物。
他的一生因为自己深爱的 初恋女友被其亲生父亲杀害而改变,他走上了一条不归路。
内心的寂寞恐慌,使得他多少年来每晚只能坐在沙发上,戴着墨镜睡觉。
寂静的深夜,听到心被撕裂的声音......
 
  一个穿着考究的缉毒警察,因为一场毒品纠纷,杀了小女孩的全家,其中有小女孩最爱的年仅四岁的弟弟。
而这个双手无数次沾满鲜血的职业杀手,因为一时的心软,打开了那扇改变他一生的门,救了她...
为了不再让伤害自己心爱女孩的人逍遥法外,拼尽所有替她报仇,最终他以自己的生命为代价,完成了女孩的心愿。
纵然他知道结果终会如斯: 怎么也摆脱不了的命运  -- 命运迫使他成为了杀手,杀手的归宿就是死于光影之交。
 
亦师亦徒,亦父亦女,爱情本来就是如此复杂。
左边是地狱,右边是天堂,中间的永远是流离失所,而在那中间的也只有LEON和MATHILDA。快乐,安枕无忧,只有彼此,也只能彼此。

Mathilda:    If I win, you keep me with you. For life.
Leon:        And if you lose?
Mathilda:   You go shopping alone, like before.

It's when you start to become really afraid of death ... that you learn to appreciate life.

剧终,sting 的Shape of my heart 在我心中涌起了一股无名的感动: Leon走了,然而那一刻他的内心是幸福的,因为他完成了最重要的一次任务,也是最后一次......他不再害怕黑夜,不再独来独往,不再了无牵挂,当他意识到这一切时,上帝带走了他。一切的一切,他就只有在另一个世界去想象,去体验!

谢谢你,Leon, 让我在2009年的寒冷中获得感动,用你最朴实最纯真的感情...  

 
 
March 10

Lost

      空中的遇难,死神来了。
  孩子的挣扎,无声的叹息。
  无法预料的结果,一切只是失落。
  似曾相识的触感,朦胧的缠绵。仿佛空气的灰色,只是装点你的可爱。
  幼稚的死亡,不是消失,只是无助的堕体。
  无言的歌声,跳动的舞步以及最惨痛的呼喊。
  壮烈只不过是一刹那,心脏的起伏却是永恒。
  
  飘落的秋叶,摇摆着另一个生命。
  放大的瞳孔,象征着结束。不可摆脱的纠缠,只是开始。
  呼吸的骚动,一颗心的坠落。
  
  奋起的拼搏,是黑夜里的呼救,
  当然,更是希望。
  拼凑的单词,满手的鲜血,狂欢的歌曲,发疯的人们。
  无法言表的感慨,痛苦的记忆,还有,失落的年华。
  
  挣拖不了的情感,亲情.友情.爱情。
  看,总是亲情在前,而爱情,则是牺牲的前兆。
  废弃了所有,两颗心在跳动。
  
  可笑的是,心中充满的恐惧,竟是求生的本能。
 
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